Self-Care, the Luxury You Can Afford
Self-care is a choice.
When you end up feeling sorry for yourself as you "have to" hit the gymnasium, as you "can't" have that piece of
birthday cake or because you "wish" you might be like your buddy who stays out late doing exciting things, remember
that you are free to flop on the couch, have 2 pieces of cake or not go to sleep at all. You are selecting
self-care. Rather than asking "Do I must do this my full life?" remind yourself, "I GET to try this my whole life,
if I keep making the choice to!" In his book, "Callings", Gregg Levoy writes, "In the Afghani tongue, the verb to
cling is identical as to die." To me, this extreme statement reminds me of the various years I adhered to smoking,
long after it stopped fitting into my life or my self-identity.
I have been smoke-free for nearly 6 years now, and I am so thankful for the chance to share what I have learned
in my journey towards self-care. My fave self-care principle is to target what you need to add in, vs what you want
to take out. To release the habits you could be sticking to, you want to shift the assumption you could have to
give up things that you adore to take care better care of yourself. When you start, instead, to ADD nutritive
self-care treatments, rituals and habits to your life, you may become naturally prepared to let go of what's not
your bag. Because you have sent yourself the message that you are worthwhile. You'll become clear about your
concerns and will naturally let go of whatever does not fit into the new life that you're building - a new life of
more energy, resilience and toleration of stress, increased joy and ease of productivity.
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TAKING IT TO YOUR SELF-CARE PLAN
Rather than imagining you need to clear the clutter from your whole house or office, instead think about ONE AREA
you'd truly like to have clear. Consider the purpose that space will fulfill, what you may do there, what it'll
look like, what it'll feel a bit like and the difference it'll make to your life to have that space. Then go about
making ( adding in ) that space. Emotions : What's an emotion you'd like to be feeling more each day? What makes
you're feeling that way? Add in activities, folks, reading, entertainment options or creative activities that bring
about that emotion in you. Getting off the couch : If you fall into the "couch potato" class ( and I definitely did
for several years of my life ), try and trade the "nothing" you are doing for a "something". In the start it may be
so simple as adding in a half hour of window-shopping at your local mall. Hey, at least you are up and out!! New
Foods : flick thru recipes in the library or in mags or papers or online and try a new plant or 2.
Try and eat a different coloured fruit each day for one week.
Shift your method of eating and try brand spanking new things rather than just making an attempt to find
substitutes for what you are used to eating.
Low-fat or sugar-free substitutes never appear to taste as good as the "real thing", they occasionally contain
damaging additions, they are dear and they do not inspire any lasting change or the basic shifts that are wanted to
really make self-care a concern. Relations : consider the qualities you'd like to be receiving more from the people
in your life, and then practice GIVING those qualities at each opportunity. Rather than contemplating what you may
need to give up to practice better self-care, think about what you're able to add in! And with the various forms of
sickness and illness that are linked to poor self-care habits, self-care is a luxury you are unable to afford to
ignore!
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